Monday, September 22, 2008

Learning to accept and respect yourself

Today I realized one important thing. Got some bad feedback this morning .. criticism from some people. You see after a recent retreat I took, I felt like I have been doing much better in some aspects of my behavior. And perhaps my mistake was to assume others would see it too - and they would give some encouragement by recognizing or acknowledging it.

But most ppl (in case Amy is reading - people means all of us including me so need to kutuk) - are so apt at looking at faults only and not forgetting the past. So while I sincerely believe I've improved (well maybe just a little) - it was really disappointing to hear people criticize and say - so short fuse .. so this and that. Sigh. Disappointed me for a while.

But then a voice inside said to me and told me this: the important thing is how u feel about yourself. You would know if u are making improvement or not. Others may be still caught up in their vision of the past and still look for signs of ur old behavior. Don't let their remarks bring u down. This doesn't mean u never listen to feedback from others. Consider what they have to say - and after an honest evaluation - trust your heart, trust your instincts - be kind to yourself. I think I am making improvement - and if no one else sees it .. that's ok. I will keep doing what I am doing and seek to continue to improve even more .. not for their sake .. but for my own well being.

In the famous words from the Love Guru (movie la), "others may say bad about me, but I won't say bad about myself." Hahaha.

That's it for his entry .. tata.

9 comments:

PEOPLE :) said...

ya - agree on it .. few weeks ago watching a talk show ,its title is = "actor".

wat so special was > 'we are the actor in our life ' so others peolpe just a pass-by only ...

learn to being a good actor in ur life show ... :)

Syl said...

Hey, "People:)" Thanks for ur comments. Wow. At least I have a regular reader. Haha. Hope this will reach more people after awhile.

PEOPLE :) said...

hope just a hope -- n blog is more meansful is how many people able to get to read ur blog to become happy...

if one day u being so then ur blog will change on its original taste - like we say commercial - so nothing special cos u write cos need to continue let people interest to follow only ... u write becouse of others...
so dun.. be urself ... then people can learn n seeing , feeling something when drop-by...

always u are the special 1 in this world - cos canot find the same in 1 world ( if u do let me know oh- even twins are not the 100% same )

Syl said...

Thank God there is only 1 me cos I think the world can't handle 2 Crazy Me. Hahahaha

PEOPLE :) said...

why say so - why so crazy abt u leh?
its tat u giving trouble or contribute to the world?

SO wat is -NOW-?
is own by U?
-NOW- = means?

sorry is to many wording to read -(lazy)
somehow the site is not interest me to dropby to find out more - as people say= no packaging ... if compare ur blog n the site - i prefer ur blog lol--- hehe hope u not mad oh-- mayb a feedback hahahah...

if for america people this is ok , more then enough,,, cos normally america business website is same as urs....

Syl said...

NOW stands for New Opportunity for Wellness.

Haha .. is ok .. ur feedback is welcomed. Everyone can have their own opinion, and we cant satisfy everyone. That's why it is important to not try to please everyone cos at the end u may end up pleasing no one.

Anyway, thanks for the feedback. I will keep in mind when we want to change. :)

Amy Teoh said...

u r right, "u r what u think". Y should u think it's a criticism to u while most of us r behaving the same but not knowing.

Syl said...

Sorry. I don't get it, Amy. If everyone is doing it and they don't know they are doing it - then it is not considered criticism?

Say for example, we go into a community where people all steal from each other. They don't know that what they are doing (taking things from each other without permission - and pretending they didn't take it) is called "stealing." Then because they don't know that is stealing, it becomes NOT stealing??

Amy Teoh said...

Umm, I also happened to blame those who slow down to "geh po" n coz the jam but later on I found that many peoples r also responding s I was. V 4goten that v r one of those passengers: the mouth is mumbling but the eyes r gazing at the scene.
Well, I would rather to argue that v r curious creature simply becoz v concern others/ownself: v want to find out what's going on of our surrounding, whether v may also get in2 risk/some peole really consider to help, ofcoz there r also some1 to take opportunity to commit crime.

ps: It's an awareness to everyone of us. Improving ourself by evaluating our comment.

pps: Everywhere is a learning place.