How Existential Therapy Complements Inner Child Work, Echo Self, and Narrative Therapy

 

Yesterday, I sat in on a lecture at Sunway University on Existential Therapy – a topic that resonated deeply with me back in my university years.

Having been in the field of psychotherapy, psychological coaching, and consultation for years, I often hear clients ask me:

“Which approach is best – Existential Therapy, Narrative Therapy, or something like Inner Child work?” This type of question is fairly common: people often compare one form of therapy against another. Today, I’m reflecting specifically on these three approaches.

And my answer is usually:

“They’re not either/or – they can actually dance together.”

Existential Therapy invites us to ask life’s big questions:
Why am I here? What truly matters to me? How do I live fully, knowing life is uncertain and limited?

These questions can feel heavy at first – but they’re deeply human.
They help us look honestly at freedom, responsibility, connection, mortality — and meaning.

So how does Existential Therapy complement some of the other approaches I use?

With Echo Self work
We explore the small, often hidden voices shaped by the past.
Existential reflection helps us ask:

Once we’ve noticed these echoes, existential reflection invites us to ask:
“What do I choose to do next?
How can I live more authentically, instead of only reacting to old patterns?”

The Echo Self process helps us notice and welcome these inner voices;
Existential inquiry then helps us decide:
“Given this, what meaning do I want to create now?”

With Narrative Therapy
We rewrite the stories we tell about ourselves.
Existential work deepens this by asking:

Beyond the story, what values and choices do I want to embody?
Am I living in line with what matters most to me?

Together, they help us see that we’re not prisoners of old narratives –
we’re the current authors of the story still unfolding.

With Inner Child Healing
We reconnect with wounded, forgotten, or playful parts of ourselves.
Existential reflection then asks:

Knowing these parts exist, how do I create a life that honours them?
What responsibility do I have to care for them and live truthfully?

Why bring these together?

Because being human is complex:

·       We carry past hurts (inner child & echoes)

·       We tell stories about who we are (narrative)

·       And we still have to choose how to live meaningfully today (existential)

No single approach is enough by itself.
But woven together, they help us heal, understand, and – perhaps most importantly – choose who we want to be, starting now.

What about you?
Do big questions like “Who am I?” or “What truly matters to me?” feel exciting, scary – or both?
If you’re willing, I’d love to hear what comes up for you.